Emotional self-awareness is the most important skill for leadership effectiveness.
Leadership Self-Reflection Questions Matter More Than New Year’s Resolutions Every New Year, leaders are encouraged to set bigger goals, move faster, and aim higher. And every year, many of those resolutions quietly fade by February. It’s not because leaders lack ambition. It’s because leadership growth doesn’t come from ambition alone. It comes from honest reflection—especially about moments we’d rather move past quickly. That’s why leadership self-reflection questions are often more powerful than any goal list. They don’t add pressure. They…
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Self-Reflection for Leaders Quietly separates strong leaders from stuck ones. Strong leaders understand something many people overlook: self-reflection for leaders is not downtime. It’s a performance skill. For some leaders, the quietest week of the year feels… strange. Meetings slow down. Decisions pause. Some people are fully offline, while others are half-working from home. For leaders accustomed to a fast pace, this lull can feel uncomfortable—or even unproductive. If you find yourself restless during this quiet time, it may be…
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Strong leadership decisions depend less on having the right answer and more on confident decision making when the stakes are high. During disruption, crisis, or uncertainty, there is always an emotional reaction. That is human. But effective leaders know how to steady themselves, control their impulses, and create just enough space to respond clearly rather than react emotionally. They reconnect with their values. They consider the impact on their team, stakeholders, and customers. Then they move forward with clarity. That…
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As you would with any other important conversation, take time to prepare for empathy. Preparing for empathy will help you improve your results. If you want to use empathy tactically to influence somone, take time to prepare. Empathy as a skill is not to be taken lightly. Here are 5 questions to prepare yourself before you try to empathize with someone else. 1. What are their motives? Consider what they are doing now and their reasons for doing this. Do…
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Empathy and turkeys — a half-serious post on the day before Thanksgiving? Should we empathize with turkeys? This is treacherous moral ground, and I am of the opinion that in our morals, we must each be guided by our own conscience. Vegans don’t eat any animal products, often because of a sense of empathy with them. I respect that. I also know that domesticated animals wouldn’t exist if it weren’t for farming. Most farm animals wouldn’t survive in the wild—or…
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When an office has a difficult employee, leaders come to me asking why some people lack empathy. It is common to believe that some people simply lack empathy. I understand why some people believe this, even though every human brain (and many animal brains) have mirror neurons in our brains that hardwire us for empathy. So, why do some people seem incapable of understanding others? I’m not qualified to discuss the effects on empathy of neurodiversity conditions like autism, narcissism…
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