Emotional self-awareness is the most important skill for leadership effectiveness.
Why are some people confident and others aren’t? Research shows that attachment style and confidence are closely related. Attachment style is the way you connect with others and your ability to build trusting relatinships. Attachment style develops early, shaped by how consistently and safely your caregivers responded to your needs. Over time, those patterns become internalized as your “relational blueprint.” As it turns out, how you form relationships with others has a powerful influence on confidence Three Attachment Styles and…
Read More
Have you ever snapped over something small—a late email, a missed comma, a colleague’s tone? You’re not alone. A stress response at work can often feel bigger than the moment, leaving you wondering, “Why did that set me off?” Key Takeaways When you learn how to recognize your triggers at work, you can learn to interrupt you stress response at work and reset to calm. Proven strategies—like pausing to breathe, stepping away briefly, or validating others’ feelings—help interrupt the impulse…
Read More
Confidence at work isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room, the one with all the answers, or the person who never shows doubt. Real confidence at work is quieter—and stronger. Key Takeaways Real confidence is about knowing your strengths and leaning into them. It’s accepting your weaknesses instead of hiding them. And it’s leading from your values so you stay calm under pressure and make steady decisions. That’s what authority without ego looks like—the kind of confidence people…
Read More
Everyone wants influence at work, whether it’s with their boss, their team, or colleagues across the organization. The question is: what’s the best way to earn it? Influence is a subtle art. Sometimes even when you have the best advice, pushing too hard can backfire. In this post, I’ll explain what influence really is, how it works, and why it so often goes wrong. What Influence Is Influence at work is about advocating for an idea—not issuing a command. Many…
Read More
Validation in leadership is an often overlooked skill that builds trust and performance. Key Takeaways Validation at work is one of the deepest human needs—and one of the most overlooked leadership skills. Nothing motivates people more than feeling seen, heard, and valued. When managers learn to validate their team members’ feelings and experiences, they unlock hidden potential for trust, learning, and motivation. Validation isn’t just “being nice.” It’s a powerful, practical tool for leading people. Used well, it can transform…
Read More
If you’ve ever walked out of a meeting thinking, “Why am I doing all the thinking?” the GOOD model of conversation is for you. It’s a four-step coaching approach—Goals, Options, Obstacles, Do—that turns managers into coaches. When someone asks for advice, it’s tempting to tell them what to do. However, telling people what they should do is micromanaging and judgmental. Instead, the GOOD model offers an easy way to take a coaching approach, using questions to guide them forward. Why…
Read More
